Have you ever had a story to share that you were afraid too? One that could either show your courage or make you seem insane? One that frightens you to know it so you try to repress, but one that you know someone needs to hear? I have that story and though I don’t want to share, I am going to tell it.
Elizabeth Gilbert begins her book “Eat, Pray, Love” describing a life changing moment “almost like one of those crazy astronomical super-events when a planet flips over in outer space for no reason whatsoever, and it’s molten core shifts, relocating its poles and altering its shape radically, such that the whole mass of the planet suddenly becomes oblong instead of spherical.” She describes a dark November night where her world came crashing down upon her and she simply wanted to live and so she began to pray and plead to God and to her surprise he answered her.
I start with that story to buffer the insanity of mine, because it is similar yet a little more dramatic, but the theme is simple all the same. We are not alone and there are things more powerful than us.
I should start by saying I’ve been on a journey of spiritual reflection trying to find some peace and comfort in my life. It’s been a long and drawn out one that has explored religion, mindfulness, and Buddhist meditation. But in the end I’ve settled into the practice of my youth, as my friend the priest has said, it’s always best to start with what you know, it’s where our roots begin. So I go to Catholic Mass and pray the “Our Father,” I take communion and try to find my peace.
But sometimes weird things happen that confuse and frighten me. Before my last crisis I was attending mass and saw what I thought was a swallow, swooping past my vision in a dark and rapid blur. It struck me as odd that no one else saw it and for a moment I thought I was crazy. And even now I wonder if it was insanity, but recent events have made me wonder if it was something different.
I once went to a psychic to get my past lives read. I thought that maybe if I did she could unlock some mystery of why I feel so stuck in life. I thought that if she could tell me what my lesson in life was that she could somehow help me fix all that hinders me. And what I got was frightening and left me believing that there is something more and that there are dark forces that we should not dabble with. Now, I don’t claim to be psychic but sometimes I just see and know things and I don’t know why. I’ve met people who radiate heat and some who emanate light, and others who claim they can feel the warmth disseminated from others. I don’t think that just because you believe in these things it makes you crazy, but this is one of those areas where my boundaries start to blur and I’ve always been afraid that my exploration, my questions and the things I see are just a part of my insanity.
But the day I saw the psychic was hot and oppressively humid, she seemed fatigued and just annoyed with the petulance of her endless stream of seekers. I knew that she had some ability to give answers or to know things that were not from her because she had that radiant glow, the shine upon her skin and a white light surrounded her. Until that day I had always thought that those who shined in that light were always on the side of right. She began to review my number chart, I neither spoke nor gestured to give my story away. It was automatic and seemed rote to her, but mid way through she stopped herself and said, almost to her own surprise “I don’t normally comment like this, but you certainly have a lot of bosses who try to micromanage you and you really wish they’d stop, as a matter of fact you probably dream about making them stop. What brought you here today.” There was no way that she could have known that. At the time I was working as an executive for a Board of Directors in a job I dearly loved, but the Board tried to micromanage every move I made and the tension was untenable and the distress consumed me. The psychic’s tone which once hinged on annoyance instantly became smooth and gentle, her harsh tone now dripped of honey. “I don’t know what brought you here, but I’m glad you came, take my card before you leave and call me any time.” It was as if there was something whispering in her ear “Get this one don’t let her go, engage her in some way.” At the time I didn’t have the clarity I have now, for I was entranced by the fact of the things she knew. She told me that my goal in this life comes down to the freedom of my choice…my life lesson was free will.
I have to admit that for a moment I thought I’d found the fountain of youth, that this woman had some special gift that she knew that I too possessed and she would teach me how to wield it. I gave great thought to approaching her again, I didn’t know why or for what, I just thought that I could learn something from her. The next day I began to reflect on how bizarre the experience was and I began to search for the woman on the internet, then I was afraid. Why did I think I would find something different? Of course she practiced dark arts and various forms of witch craft. The light she possessed was some facade.
The next day I met with a priest. I began to divulge my story and asked God for forgiveness, as he prayed with me he described St. Ignatius’s belief that some people possess the ability to discern dark spirits that mascaraed as light. I then realize what I had just done and it frightened me. Since then I’ve not missed a mass nor visited a psychic, while I have stumbled and made mistakes I have not strayed from that commitment to never return to her but even then I still don’t know what I truly exposed myself too.
So now fast forward almost a year has passed and in recent weeks I have found myself in crisis like the one Elizabeth Gilbert describes, in a moment on the floor begging for forgiveness, pleading for redemption, groveling for my life. Through sobs and gasps for air and in pure desperation I simply prayed the “Our Father” all through the night. In a frenzied chant I said it again and again. As I wearied I then laid outstretched on the living room couch, almost in a trance repeating “Our Father, who art in Heaven….Our Father….Our Father…” I thought of the book written by Mitch Albom, Have a Little Faith. In it he tells the story of a man named Henry who had been connected to murder other heinous crimes, who in a moment of crisis, plead to God to save his life. And so I plead with God and said “If you saved Henry, God, then you can save me…please God Help me.” And as my pain and panic, crying, and fear began to mount a strong thunderstorm began to intensify around me. The lightning was so close I could hear it crackle and the thunder was instantaneous. Within and around me there was a horrific storm. And several times I felt a twitch, an involuntary spasm, as if I felt the electricity from the storm around me. But it was different from any electricity I’d felt before. Instead of absorbing the energy in me, it felt as if something had reached into the crown of my head and pulled something out of me, not once, but twice. My body twitched and spasmed and I felt an electric shock, but in reverse. And as soon as that transpired a gale of wind blew through my house and three doors slammed shut.
Now, I know how that sounds and I know I have moments that will make you wonder if I imagined or hallucinated this. Was this a moment of my 10% insanity? I do not know. But only seconds later my son was standing at the top of the stares sobbing in distress. His bedroom door on the second floor had slammed shut and frightened him, as had all the bedroom doors on the first and second floors. I ran and embraced my precious son, the miracle he is, and crawled into his bed and held him next to my heart, and simple continued to pray. He fell back to sleep quickly and I went back down the stairs to carry on with my vigil that started on the couch. But this time much less frenzied and with a little calm.
And since then it’s not that I haven’t struggled, my heart aches and I have pain. But there is something different, I feel an inner calm, not mine per say, but a presence of mind that I simply need to just endure. Although the storms continue to rage around me and I currently grieve for the challenges in my life, the answers are more simple. I have simply vowed my life to God and trust he’ll see me through. Like St. Paul who had a defining conversion moment, I think that I’ve had mine.
I don’t know what happened and don’t want to admit that I think there were dark forces hovering over me, but I recognize it’s not the type of thing that is worth gambling on. Does it matter if what I described was real or a moment of temporary insanity? Not really because it doesn’t change what I need to do, and that is simply be the type of person that God wants from me. Elizabeth Gilbert says that when asked what type of God she believes in she always answers “I believe in a magnificent God” and I think she is right.